This is a comment to the an OP - The Quiet Cruelty of When Harry Met Sally by Megan Garber in The Atlantic the other day. Click photo for the Article.
I am very glad some people - and by that I mean some women, are writing OPs like this. Reflection is needed by us, women, on the way the world through movies, art, books, politics, media is presented to us. We can never take it at face value. The work is always to recognize it as a projection of the biases and predilections of a time and the person expressing it. Which is all well and good. The danger then is more about what the message is and how it is being used. These things may seem innocuous at first, but when used to control or erase us by the individuals around us or the status quo and to remove our agency by dismissing our worth in the discussion, then it is most dangerous.
